In a few months, my husband and I will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary. During those threeplus decades, we have had more than a dozen residences in 10 cities in three continents. That’s a lot of packing and unpacking, loading and hauling, settling and uprooting to settle again. There is one very important lesson we have learned through all of this relocating.
Work with a professional Having a professional guide you through selecting a home is critical. For one thing, qualified Realtors provide invaluable insight about the community. For example, in Tennessee our Realtor researched the zoning laws on the vacant land behind us and learned about our potential new neighbors.
For another thing, they help you gain perspective. In Geneva we learned that washing machines in the kitchen are typical. American-sized laundry rooms, not so much.
They help you set priorities. In our early days in the beautiful little village of St. Matthews, Kentucky, our Realtor explained that the charm of homes built in the ‘30s means one small bathroom. Or remodeling. Not on our budget.
And they help you get realistic. Singapore is a small, densely populated island. Twenty-four hundred square feet is spacious.
A coach does the same for her clients. She helps them gain insight about their community. What does your physical and mental workspace look like? Does it inspire you? Who sits around you? What about sounds around you? Lighting? What about the people with whom you share space?
A coach helps clients gain perspective. Stepping back and taking a long hard objective view of things can be enlightening. This is especially helpful when it comes to time. Not having enough of it is a common complaint. Just like corporate and personal finances, it’s good to do a time audit occasionally. Where are you spending time that is wasteful? Where should you invest more time?
She helps clients set priorities. If you want to exercise more, spend more time with family, travel more, read more, and you’re not doing it, a coach will help you create the structure to make it happen.
She helps clients get realistic. Sometimes we get hooked on big ideas. Dreaming of the next big thing and lamenting “If only…” “If only I had more time, money, freedom, then I could have the life I want.” But that kind of thinking and living is a cop out. A coach won’t let that happen. Facing the brutal facts is critical.
The 19th century philosopher Kierkegaard suggests we think of a life like a house with a basement, first floor, second floor. There are beautifully decorated rooms upstairs and yet we choose to remain in the basement. We do that when we get stuck in the mundane, focus on the trivial, continually delay what really matters. If you’re eager to move upstairs, to check out all that your life can be, to explore and expand, then take some time this week to step outside your routine, to sit quietly, to dream, to plan, to make the changes that will get you what your heart desires.
Because coaching is about listening, Line of Sight would like to hear from you. What keeps you up at night? What is getting in the way of getting things done? What needs to change, but you just can’t figure out how to do it? Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org
Article published in Airpark News – Jan 2016